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Etienne Maurice and Sheryl Lee Ralph, and Ivy-Victoria Maurice attend The Elizabeth Taylor Ball To End AIDS

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When it comes to her children,Sheryl Lee Ralphhas many things to be proud of, including their hard-won professional success.

“I’m so proud of them,” says Ralph, who spoke with PEOPLE to promote her partnership withMadeGoodon itsShare Some Good Fund. “They’re not looking at me to help them do this or that. They’re not using nepotism. They’re not coming to me saying, ‘Can you call this? Can you do that?’ They’re doing it themselves, and I just respect them so much for that.”

“Sometimes I say, ‘Well, can I help?’ They’re like, ‘No, mom, we got this. We got this.’ And I’m like, ‘Wow, you really do got this,'” she adds.

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HOLLYWOOD, CA - DECEMBER 07: Actress Sheryl Lee Ralph (C) and children Ivy-Victoria Maurice (L) and Etienne Maurice attend the premiere of Broad Green Pictures’ “Just Getting Started” at ArcLight Hollywood on December 7, 2017 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/WireImage)

Ralph, 66, says that while her daughter follows in the footsteps of her mother, designer Ivy Ralph, Coco has a fashion sensibility all her own. That has proven itself out time and again with show-stopping looks, like thecustom gold strapless grownfrom Haitian designerJovana Louisshe dressed her mother in for the Critics Choice Awards this January.

“Coco was always in the cutting room,” the actress explains. “I don’t know how it came to her, but she’s good at this. She gets it. She has totally elevated my style. She has given me a look that makes other women say, ‘Oh, my God, Ineedto try that,’ or “Why don’t I try being more colorful?'”

TheAbbott Elementarystar also discussed Etienne’stwo terrible incidentsin 2013: a car accident, and a mugging where he was shot three times — twice in his leg and once where a bullet grazed his forehead.

Etienne Maurice, Sheryl Lee Ralph arrives at the Premiere Of Apple TV +’s “Sidney” at Academy Museum of Motion Pictures on September 21, 2022 in Los Angeles,

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Those scary moments were extremely trying for Ralph. “There are moments in your children’s lives that will bring you to your knees,” she explains. “Sometimes in exhaustion. God’s willing, it is in prayer. People talk about testimony. The test has become a testimony. The pain has brought him through with greater purpose. And through his own experiences in life, he is able to be of better help and service to others.”

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Etienne, whoreflectedon those traumatic experiences on social media in July,proposedto Stephanie Wash, his longtime girlfriend and a journalist at ABC News, that same month.

“He’s got an incredible partner,” Ralph says proudly. “She’s beautiful and smart.”

source: people.com